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Abusive relationships can be worst nightmares for those who are a victim of it. However, many sufferers are not really sure of the abuse and its impacts on their lives. It is important to understand the true meaning of abuse and the facts about abusive relationships. According to one study, most of people mistake abuse for intense feelings of care or concern. Truth can’t be farther than that. There is no love or care in jealousy or controlling behaviour. In a relationship, both parties are equally valued and respected but absence of these factors is definitely an indication of lack of affection. If a person defines and set expectations, emotions and behavioural pattern for you, it is a sign of abusive behaviour. In a way, that person is trying to control your emotions and demands you to seek validations for your emotions and feelings from him. If this is not a sign of abusive relationship, what else could be?
The problem with abusive relationships is that, victims often start feeling familiar or even conformable to the abuse. But many recipients of abuse also struggle with feelings of powerlessness, hurt, fear, and anger. Usually, abusers are also likely to have been raised in emotionally abusive environments. Abusing their partners is just a tool for them to cope with their own feelings of powerlessness. Victims of abusive relations constantly struggle with a feeling of lacking self-worth and self-esteem.
Signs of abusive relationships are verbal abuse, emotional withholding, broken promises, raging, extreme jealousy, lack of intimacy, threats, mind control games and lies. Abusive relationships need not necessarily be physical in nature. It is believed that emotional abuse is much more damaging that physical violence and sufferers find it difficult to recover from them. Emotional abuse has long term repercussions on mental and emotional conditions of the affected people. The worst part about abusive relations is its progressive nature. They get worst over time.
It’s futile to wait eternally for a divine solution to your abusive relations. One must understand the pattern of his/her relationships. It will be prudent to have clarity about the nature of the relationship. You must not allow your abusive partner to define and control you. One should consult a specialist for these problems. If nothing else works, it is always recommended to break free from the relationship.
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