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A child’s self-esteem is more precious than any grades or talents. A child with a strong self-esteem can do well even with a few talents and average grades. A broken or low self-esteem can pull down even the smartest of kids. It is very important that you always do things that give your child’s self-esteem a good push and ushers in self-confidence in them. This is the most important thing every parent can do for its child. If you are still thinking what could be the ways of building self-esteem in your child then simply read on.
Accept them
Always accept your children the way they are. Never criticise their physical looks or praise another child in front of them which makes them feel bad about themselves. If they are siblings never compare them. Each has their own potential, strengths and weaknesses. So accept them the way they are. Guide them on how they can improve or what they look best in or what they are best at. You will see that your child will divert his or her attention on what you tell them they are powerful in.
Assert their good qualities
Always assert their good qualities. Pay less attention to the negative ones and you will soon see them disappear. If your child is bad at maths and good at language then tell him that he is great at languages and if he worked on maths too he would be an all-rounder. Don’t make your child feel that he is not good at maths.
Tell him he just needs more practice and spend more time with maths and that he can do it. It is just the way you put across things that will process them and the results will show. The minds of children are tender and your comments, actions and display of behaviour can leave deep imprints. So choose your words carefully and assert your child’s good qualities and give him the confidence that can lead him to success.
Compliment them and encourage them
Always compliment your child. Compliment him on how he behaved at the party. Compliment her on that speech she gave in the elocution competition. Let them know they take good care of the house and you can depend on them for timely help. Tell your son how smart he looks in a tie and tell your daughter that those jeans really make her look good. Your children love your approval and giving it to them means forming stronger bonds. Avoid shouting or screaming at your kids. Be gentle but firm. If they have accidentally squeezed out your expensive moisturiser don’t throw a fit. Sit together and ask how it happened. Tell them it should not happen again and how much that tube cost you. Screaming and shouting at them might draw them away from you. For all you know they might even turn immune to it if you do it very regularly. So keep that loud voice for a very important occasion for other times talk with a straight face and tell them what you expect of them. Building your child’s self-esteem needs a lot of input from you. Remember your criticism and appreciation mean the most.
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