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While parenting we have to be bigger in our souls too. Accept limitations and pardoning mistakes is the biggest challenge about parenthood. As humans we all expect love from our family and members. Love also brings with it other expectations and when do not get fulfilled they get bigger anticipations which ends in anxiety. Firstly we need to understand that just as birds fly away from their nest, children too one day will become individuals with their own talents, success and values. One thing we can give children is right human values, love and education.
The subject of discipline is a huge focus in all homes. We need to respect the space for a teenager and yet make them abide by the rules of the house. When a teen girl child expresses interest in using make up, it is fine to allow her. Except correct her on the right grounds. Children love taking decisions too and start some daily exercise of involving them in their duty. Let them choose to clean the room or do the bathroom. Rotation of chores also helps them to accept their duties at home. A toddler too can start by picking his cereal bowl or laying the bath towel back in the rack.
Strategies need to be changed and parenting styles are also about development. What excited us during our childhood has changed and will keep changing. There are wonderful seminars, forums and counselors that can help you solve a crisis or a continual problem about children behavior or parenting. There is much we can do for a child who has a hyperactivity problem. This calls for patience and love and the inner strength to be bigger than the problem. Severe health problems in children also call for special skills in parenting.
The art of negotiation is well learnt in childhood. Just as you trade off the butter knife with a toy from your toddler, the child also learns to make propositions and other such demands. Tantrums must never be tolerated and while the child displays loud behavior or outbursts it is better to leave them in a room till they are spent. Once the child is calm, distract him and explain why they were refused the demand. With pictures, drama and dialogues children learn so much about being polite, decent and observe good behavior.
Other strategies also are required to help your child improve their reading habits. In case the child has limited interest in coloring, use a few crayons yourself and display them. Anything done by their chief role models-parents will be imitated by them. Right from training for potty to help them bake a cake, parents have much to do in making the child adapt to situations. While the teenage child has broken rules, ground them but do not be harsh on their other needs. They are sensitive and will eventually learn about the rules as they are for their own benefit. As parents we ourselves must never flout rules and it is best imitated by our own progeny.
Correct their language immediately, do not hit them and explain the house rules which may be quite different to the rules of your cousin or their best friend. Allow them to enjoy within a few rules as it assists their development.
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