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Parents should avoid comparing their kid with other kids. It is a natural instinct to compare. But it should be avoided at all cost because it hampers overall development in your child and will affect their self esteem.
It’s natural to compare
Kids especially in their teens get influenced by their peers and tend to compare themselves and what they have or don’t have. Their classmate might be having a really classic car; therefore they want to have the same. And they might come and ask you why don’t they have the same car? Some might want the latest gadget before any of their friends has it? Some might want to have the latest fashionable clothes.
Parents should boost self-confidence
Parents should teach their kids self confidence, so that they resist the urge to compare themselves with others. People who compare themselves to other individuals tend to feel they are not good enough. No matter whatever they achieve in life it is never good enough for them because they will always find someone achieving at a higher level.
Every individual is different
You should tell the child that every individual is different and each has his or her shortcomings. You might excel in something while the other might not. Learn to focus on your skills and enhance them. If the other person is good at dance, you might not necessarily be good at it, unless you have an interest and inherent talent to do well in dancing.
Limit a child’s wants
Parents should limit their child’s wants and demands. You should not blindly give everything that your kid asks for. Let your child know whatever you buy for him or her is from hard earned money and at times certain things are not needed so you won’t give it to him or her.
Ignoring negative comments
Ask your child not to pay too much heed to what his or her classmates say. If they talk negative or tease them about not having the latest gadget or clothes, it is better to ignore. Be positive and satisfied with what you have. Sometimes if your kid is grown up, he or she can understand if you simply tell him or her that you can’t afford an expensive watch or car, that’s why you can’t it for him or her.
Always compliment your child if he or she has got some prize or got good grades in school. This way it would help your child develop a positive attitude won’t compare himself with others. Also when your kid doesn’t score good grades, don’t compare with any of his friend who has topped or scored better. Instead don’t let him develop negative attitude, encourage him and reassure him things will be better next time.
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