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Disciplining children is the toughest part of parenting. All parents try and ignore the initial tantrums and try possible methods to calm the child. Most times unknowingly, hitting the child seems an immediate solution. Though this is a temporary solution to stop the activity the child has been doing, it has severe after effects. Often parents complain that the child is immune to suggestions and also spanking really doesn’t seem to help. In a case, the child stays unaffected then the repercussions are set and its high time parents do something about it.
Spanking the child is a sign of bad parenting. It is true that parents too are bogged by several commitments, but spanking is certainly not a skill that will instill discipline in the child. In case, it is only one parent who continues the spanking habit, then for the child it is easy to avoid the parent and put on the best behavior in front of the other parent. Corrective styles in parenting are never too late to be adopted. The next time you raise your hand, count ten or even twenty. Howling at your one year old, serves no purpose. Only that the child howls too imitating your behavior.
Attention seeking is also termed as bad behavior. The child feels insecure and does not let you talk to your spouse or use the internet chat lines. This is a mechanism wherein the child displays reckless behavior and also gets destructive till you give her the attention she is expecting. The normal reaction to such behavior from a parent would be to spank the child but the better option is to be still and calm even if your child is getting aggressive. As parents we need to understand that hitting stops the behavior immediately and also temporarily but scars the mind for a long time.
Psychologists believe that troubled childhood often causes criminals. There is nothing that cannot be solved without communicating with the child. With constant practice to be patient, we parents can also take help from our children. A family bond is tightened with love and care and it is more important to make time to improve this bond. Conflicts are constant in our life and if the child who is attuned to spanking will not seek an alternative when he or she is in a difficult situation when you are not present. The result is that the child gets aggressive or the worst scene is that he is submissive.
Peer pressure, personal achievements and also inter personal skills are enhanced when the problems are solved effectively with limited external help from others. Hitting the child can also be dangerous when done in a fiery mood. There is risk to health of the child and the extent can be undesirable. It is no use fretting after the harm is done. No parent is truly happy after punishing the child via spanking. The end result is the child suffers his confidence and you feel miserable after the feat.
The phrase ‘Spare the Rod and Spoil the child’ can well be changed as ‘Use the Rod and Spoil the Child’. With hitting we tend to spoil the innocence of childhood. We forget the love that is so deep and is the best instinct to transform a behavior.
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