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It has often been
said that you can only trust others when you trust yourself completely.
Only he you have high self esteem and self confidence. Otherwise
trusting others is one of the most difficult things to do. Thus it is
important to teach children to trust themselves. And for this as a
parent you need to keep reassuring them.
Reward them & appreciate them for every right and punish them gently for
every wrong. Sometimes as parents we are so driven by the need to bring
out the best in our children that we overlook whatever right they do,
but are extremely quick to reprimand their wrongs. And this is where
they lose their confidence. This is where they are unable to bring up
their levels of self esteem.
When you acknowledge their achievements, no matter how big or small,
they have faith in you; simply because they know that you are with them
at every step. They will develop faith in anyone who stands by them like
a shadow. Be their to hold their hand.
There are certain incidents in childhood that work best to inculcate
trust in your child. One for example is when your toddler is taking his
first steps. The little one when walking looks towards you and what you
must do is wait at such a distance that he makes every attempt the first
couple of steps and yet in case he is about to fall you can catch him on
time.
Like this even in other activities like cycling and swimming, you have
to be there as a buffer for your child so that he knows that you will
help him lest he falls or he feels he will drown and yet, he builds up
the self confidence to cycle or swim without your help.
It is only in the formative years that we can teach our child how to
trust others by teaching them how to trust us. And in all this lies the
most important virtue of self trust. Category
authored by Karishma Bajaj. Copyright
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